A Hand up from the Depths Featured
So I again sit to type to you, plagued by a silent subtle anxiety. This task or that always thrust to the fore front of my mind as being more important. Sometimes rightly sometimes a cruel distraction allowing the anxiety to grow somewhere hidden of the true lost priority. Independence seeming a mere dream.
A dull throb some where in the depths of the mechanical running of my body waiting. Whether it be a form that has gone unheeded with the statement Urgent in huge red Letters or a small message that could lead to great opportunity. It lurks down there in the dark gnawing at my intestines hanging around with the numerous telephone calls never made some of which have gone way past critical and lay decaying in a smelly heap. Its smell reeks of failure and impending doom.
Until a friend can say the words 'HOPE'*. Helping you to dig down, way down deep and lift them out one at a time. The coach with a strong grip as they hoist you back up into the clean smelling air and the daylight. Another task broken down with the help and support of a dear friend. Find such a friend and be there 'HOPE' as they will be yours.
*HOPE is a term me and my good friend and coach use to help each other. We picked it up from the fantastic book Driven to Distraction. To use as an aid to helping a friend with ADD. It loosely stands for Help (What help do you need) Obligations (What do you have to accomplish) Planning (How can you plan for that) and lastly Encouragement (Much needed when it seems that there is such a mountain still to climb).
It is not always Easy to find that person willing to be that support or to realise that it is really what you need. And it is not always easy for someone on the spectrum to ask for this kind of help but Its always worth it in the End you grow together. I am so fortunate to have such a true friend and to get the chance to be one aswell. Go out there and become one in no matter how big or small a way.
Frank Louis Allen